Finding Clarity When You're Not on the Same Page

Sometimes a couple reaches a crossroads where one partner is leaning toward ending the relationship while the other still wants to repair it. When you are in such different places, traditional couples therapy can feel impossible—or even make things more painful.

Discernment Counseling is designed specifically for these mixed-agenda couples.

The goal is not to fix the relationship or persuade either person to stay or leave. Instead, it offers a slower, structured process to help both partners gain greater clarity and confidence about the direction of the relationship.

Together, we work toward:

Greater clarity. Understanding more fully what has happened in the relationship and recognizing the ways each partner has contributed to where things are now.

Less pressure and conflict. Rather than forcing couples therapy when one partner is unsure they even want the relationship, Discernment Counseling makes room for the very different places each person may be standing.

A thoughtful decision. The aim is to move away from decisions driven primarily by anger, fear, guilt, or urgency and toward a choice that has been carefully considered.

How It Works

Discernment Counseling is a short-term process, usually between one and five sessions, with the decision to continue made one session at a time.

The process explores three possible paths: continuing the relationship as it is for now, moving toward separation or divorce, or making a serious commitment to couples therapy to see whether the relationship can become something different.

I have completed training in Discernment Counseling through the Doherty Relationship Institute, which developed this approach.

If you recognize your relationship in this description, you are welcome to reach out. We can talk briefly about whether Discernment Counseling may be a good fit for the two of you, including fees.